February 18, 2018: Anniversary Outing

Bright and sunny, a lovely afternoon to venture into Milford, PA for an anniversary dinner. Only the snow patches on the hills and rocks along route 15 gives away the crazy snowfall that took place the night before. It began as Andy and I were coming home from mass. Even though we were driving below the speed limit, the snow slammed against the windshield. We were thankful that we arrived home safely.

We drove to Milford once before, a couple months ago. We went on a fun drive one weekend, and discovered a nice little town on the border of NJ and PA. We wanted to return soon, to see more of the neighborhood, and enjoy the lovely restaurant in the area.

Even if it does turn out that there’s little to see, it will be a nice weekend anniversary adventure.

February 17, 2018: Both Sides

After spending a week managing my naturally wavy hair, I learned some valuable things about myself:

  • Viewing waves in my hair throughout the day was not as uncomfortable as I thought it would be!
  • Managing my wavy hair caused me to directly confront my perception of beauty.
  • My fiancé and friends have been truly supportive during this week.
  • I can alternate between two looks for my hair to have, week to week. So refreshing for me to say that!
  • When humidity takes over my hair in the summer, I now have the tools to handle it. 🙂

 

This week I’m wearing my hair straight. This didn’t come without some debate, since I really loved the waves I saw in the mirror before doing my ‘straight hair’ routine. It took me many years to truly love my natural hair, as much as I love wearing it straight. So I am returning to my waves in a few days. Probably sooner that that, since when my hair begins to take on waves in a couple days (as it always does when it’s straight), I’ll welcome it. Being yourself is a wonderful thing.

February 16, 2018: Friendship and Chinese New Year

I’m still waiting to hear from my friend from Puerto Rico to call back. The last time I spoke to her was over the weekend, about her situation with her mother’s grave site. This has been a very emotional time for her, to say the least. I’m hopeful that we can talk over the weekend.

Today marks the beginning of Chinese New Year. It falls on a different day every year, but usually between January & February. This year is the Year of the Dog. People born in a Dog year are very loyal and adventurous. At work we’re going to make a special craft with the children to honor Year of the Dog. My kids don’t know a lot about Chinese New Year, but they enjoy crafts, so it should be a fun day.

February 15, 2018: Anniversary

Today my fiance Andy and I celebrate 5 years together. It’s wonderful that we’ve shared many memories. We’ve known each other for several years, but lost touch after we graduated from college years ago. Thankfully social media reconnected our paths a few years ago.

Andy and I got engaged over a year ago, and I’m looking forward to many more wonderful years and memories with him. He is someone that I would share everything with, and he encourages every dream I reach out to achieve.

February 14, 2018: A Day of Celebration & Mindfulness

February 14 is now a special day in my life, in different ways. It’s Andy’s sister’s birthday, as well as the ‘day of love’ for many couples. Since Andy and I officially began our relationship the following day a few years ago, we celebrate our moment later on. Since a birthday is also honored today, it makes planning our outing easier.

Today also marks Ash Wednesday, the beginning of Lent for Roman Catholics. I haven’t thought much about what to abstain from for a few weeks, but I’ll think of something. As daunting as it may feel to give up a favored thing for 40 days, it does pass quickly.

February 13, 2018: Breathe

As the days pass, it feels like the tasks build more and more, with little end in sight. My days begin very early, and they don’t end until after 6pm. Honestly, some days it’s tough to be in a positive attitude. In those crazy moments, I try to take a breath, and stay focused, so doubt doesn’t interfere. I just can’t afford to have any room for doubt.

February 12, 2018: Priorities

The cemetery near my friend’s town in Puerto Rico closed over the weekend. There was immense damage from Hurricane Maria, so the only option officials have is to close the area. People who have loved ones still buried there can move them to another location, as soon as one is chosen. So the process of searching for loved ones among the destruction begins.

One hardship after another is endured. My close friend has withstood so much in the past few months. There are also medical and familial struggles she is handling. For now, she needs to communucate with her brother as to how to move their mother out of the closed location. The priority now is to make sure they can see their mother again.

February 11, 2018: My Wavy Hair

Today I’m beginning my journey to embrace my naturally wavy hair. Of course, it’s a rainy, foggy day in central NJ now, so it’s going to be fun to see how well it stays manageable! I guess it’s the best time to do it though. If I can keep my hair looking all right after today, I’ll be all right in the days afterward!

I’ve been wanting to go back to maintaining my wavy hair for quite some time, but I couldn’t find the products needed to make it happen. That changed on Friday, when I finally located the product I’ve been searching for. So I’ll see how the products hold up for the next couple days.

The image above is my hair from this morning. I’m trying out John Frieda’s Dream Curls foam and Secret Weapon cream.

February 10, 2018: Hurricane Maria’s Lasting Impact

Last night I received a call from my best friend from Puerto Rico. We only spoke for a few minutes, but she shared with me another heartbreaking piece of information, due to Hurricane Maria’s impact on the island. A local cemetery was heavily damaged, with graves flipped open and dislocated. The area may need to be closed permanently. My friend needs to wait until Monday to see if her mother’s grave site is one of the hundreds that is damaged.

Understandably, she is devastated. I listen to this news with heavy sadness …sad for her, since it appears that she may never get visit her mother’s resting place again. Sadness for my family still living in Puerto Rico, and praying for their safety. Sadness at the thought of my relatives in the island who have passed, and praying that their resting places escaped with minimal damage. And I also feel frustration at the incredibly slow response from government officials, how millions are still living in hardship.

February 9, 2018: Morning Thoughts

So far the month has been pretty busy…at work I keep busy to maintain the monthly theme. I have a project underway that I hope comes out somewhat presentable. The work comes completely from the children, so I’m happy about that.

I really need to figure out how to style my wavy hair. I usually straighten my hair, but some days I get tired of putting in the work, and when it dries naturally such lovely curls emerge. Then the next day it turns into a wavy mess. So I need to find a solution for that. Until then, it’s keeping up with the flat iron.